My [25F] boyfriend [25m] is addicted to NSFW content
I 25f think my boyfriend 25m has a porn addiction. There is a lot to this story but for simplicity sake I wont go to into to much detail. He has watched porn and played porn games since a young age, he has continued that into adulthood. We have been dating for almost 2 years now, we were long distance for about a year and a half of our relationship. We recently moved in together and are on month 4 of our 12 month lease. Before we moved in together we were already having issues in our sex life. I believe these issues stemmed from a porn addiction. Even now, he has not been able to finish during sex with me. Not once in our almost 2 year relationship have I seen him cum. Before we moved in we had a talk, I told him I expected him to drop porn when we moved in together and that id prefer the sooner the better. He was upset but after sleeping on it he told me he would stop. However, I believe he never stopped, he lied to me about stopping. He mostly uses redit to watch porn while in the bathroom, thats just his method. When id ask him about it, he would pull up redit and go to the settings and the adult content filter would be off, he would say it "turns on randomly". Anytime I tried to have a conversation about it he would get combative and act like I was crazy for not believing him and taking him for his word. He also has multiple sex/henti games on his steam account. He originally told me they belonged to his brother because they used to share an account and he said he doesnt like them. I didnt believe him when he told me that but I didnt think much if it until recently. Skip forward to now, I ended up finding out that he was still viewing and upvoting sexual content on redit actively. I confronted him about it and we got into a argument, he denied using it as fap material, he said he was only upvoting it, his exact words were "oh tittys, nice! Like, scroll". He ended up agreeing to stop again, he said I didnt make it clear that he wasnt allowed to like stuff like that only that he wasnt allowed to masterbate to porn (absolute bullshit, ive made it very clear i dont like him interacting with any kind of sexual content at all. He knows id be upset if he liked a bikini pic so he knows I wouldnt be okay with that). Anyway he ended up deleting his old redit account and creating a new one, he hasn't shown mw the new account so I cant be sure he isnt still looking at porn. However, what put me over the edge now is the porn games. He waits till I go to bed then he plays porn games. On all kinds of sites but the one Ive seen most is F95zone. That in itself pissed me off but then I found out he was playing porn moble games on his tablet in bed right next to me and trying to hide it. Im really at a loss here, I love him but all this is making me lose love and attraction to him. Now I look at him and all I see are the redit girls and henti games he likes. He hasnt cum during sex with me but he actively seeks outside sexual stimulation. We have talked before about him dropping sexual content to try to see if that will help but clearly he isnt willing to do that, only say he will then hide it from me. Idk what to do, talk with him again or just bid my time till things can end? I feel like we get no where with every conversation, he agrees then goes behind my back to continue and hide and lie to me. Saveable or no? Any advice on what to say? Any guys have experience with this? If so, what did your partner say to get you to stop?
Posted Feb 7, 2026, 10:53 PM UTC