My husband and I argue often

When my husband (34) and I (35) argue, it is usually small issues that explodes. We are both at fault for that. During argument I often yell and repeat things. Once he has had it, he gets very angry and leaves and threatens me that he won’t attend a family gathering or so on forth that we were suppose to go to that weekend. It is often followed by text messages that I am too much and he is done.

This is sort of the repetitive pattern of our arguing. I am not perfect either, but I just find it unfair how he leaves and threatens me with stuff like that.

Tl;dr when my husband and I argue he often leaves and says gentle threats such as not attending a family gathering we were suppose to go to or sending me texts saying I am too much and he is done.