Update on moving in with bf

Hi ladies, thank you all so much for your feedback on my last post. I compiled everything together and used as basis for our conversation.

This is what we agreed on. Please let me know your thoughts truly.

Dishes - I will be in charge of loading all dishes into the dishwasher.

Why? I have a higher cleaning need and he doesn’t clean the sink the way I like after loading the dishwasher.

Solution - I load all dishes. He unloads all dishes.

Vacuum - I currently vacuum my place every morning unfailingly (I also have a Pom that sheds a lot!). I will continue doing this daily at our new home. And steaming the floors 3 times a week like I currently do. However when I can’t do it (either from being on my period or just tired - never happens really), he will step up and take over

Trash - I take the trash out of my apartment daily. We compromised on him taking the trash out every 2 days.

Cooking - He is a much better cook and enjoys cooking. He will be in charge of all dinner cooking and I can step in and help whenever I want to make one of my random instagram recipes lol. He cooks. I load the washer.

Laundry - He will be in charge of all our laundry twice a week. We agreed to this because I have to fold and hang all the laundry. My closet has to be a certain way. And because we share closet, it’s going to fall on me to keep putting things in order. So to balance it out, he does the laundry and I fold the way I want.

Grocery shopping - We do it together or instacart the orders.

Other ‘smaller’ things like cleaning the counter top like someone kindly mentioned on my last post, will fall on me. He promises to clean up after himself as best as he could (But! I honestly have such low expectations on this 😅)

Toilet : Clean up after ourselves

Bathroom : I will continue to spray down and quick wash the shower like I currently do after each use

Then a cleaning service once a week and we can move to biweekly once we have a set routine.

Our new place is 3 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms so it would be impossible for me to vacuum and clean by myself.

One thing I didn’t mention in my previous post is he has a 10 year old daughter who he shares custody of. She will be living with us 20% of the time (one weekend a month including for 2 months in the summer). But our schedule would remain the same when she’s home.

I’m not sure if there was anything else I skipped. But I used all the pointers and questions you all shared to start the conversation.