advice. she came back after 6 months.

she was someone I fell for quite fast. we both did. but little did I know she had some mental health issues. she got out of a divorce a few years before and sobered up and was in recovery for 3 years. we started dating at 2.5 years and it lasted 8 months.

I must say, those 8 months were intense (in a good way) but she brought out a lot of my caregiving, codependent tendencies. we had a really great time and had so many plans for the future. however, she also ended up relying on me for everything to the point she felt our relationship was uneven and she wasn’t giving enough. i also was such a people pleaser, I went overboard with trying to make myself useful. I watched her succumb to a horrible job that enveloped her. thinking back, I don’t think she could maintain both the relationship and her career. she had tons of trauma but didn’t want to go to therapy. one day, after a few “tremors”, she walked away and said she needed to leave because of lost she was. I asked her to work things out. she never responded and I went no contact.

6 months later.

I went to therapy myself for my codependency and worked on myself. the breakup was bad. but after 3 months, I was finally myself again and for the first time living for me. I started going on dates with some people too.

out of the blue, someone drops off flowers and a letter. it’s her. she wrote me a beautiful letter. it was her explaining how bad her mental health was at the time and how she has escaped that job, went to therapy and made big changes. she said she’s been thinking about me so much and how if I was up for it, would want to try again. if not, wished me a happy life. she apologized to a point that she may have hurt me.

I know every situation is different but i’m here for advice. the only thing stopping me from reaching out is the fear that she’d do this again when things get tough. life is tough. how do i know she won’t do it again. I know we’d have to work together on communication.

I feel like i’m in a point in my life where I need stability. I loved her dearly until she broke my heart. at a minimum I want to talk to see how she’s doing but for her to hear about my side of the story.

what do y’all think? is it possible for a “happy” ending?