I’m a woman & my partner is a man. He says that having sex (with me I guess) feels like “running an errand.” I’m 33, he’s 31.

We’ve been together 4/4.5 years. This sex trailed off over after like the first 6 months or so, but it’s like as though he doesn’t even look at me that way.. is what it sometimes seems like. I just feel lost. This is leading me to almost breaking up with this person - one of the reasons.

Any advice? Or any thoughts on how you would interpret this?

I mean it makes me feel he isn’t attracted to. If there is sex initiated, it’s more typically by me… but I kind of have recently given up.