He broke up with me because I wasnt putting effort. Broke up with me again when I put effort and now hes back saying he wants me to direct this as he always messes things up.

So I wasnt putting effort at first just because I wasnt getting much of my emotional needs met and plus all he did was just invite me once a month to his house and when we broke up, I just wasnt gonna put effort into a guy who wasnt ready for a relationship. But finally I decided to show up as he wanted something serious. I invited him twice to my house and both times he was either busy or sick and then I get the random 'i think its better we dont talk since things always end the same' and mind you I never once ended things. I literally stayed loyal to him for the past 3 years without even being his gf. and now he comes back. I guess I got frustrated with texting for 3 weeks and no meet up and no valentines mentioned... so I asked him what he wants. he was going on about how he wants to go with the flow/had no expectations when we started talking again and that he wants me to direct where this goes so he knows I want this too apparently

like I do love and care for him but it just feels like hes unsure of me or wasting my time when I just want someone i can genuinely be with. Should I just move on? He was my first boyfriend