How I reckoned my beliefs and my sexuality

A day ago somebody in this subreddit asked how people came to the conclusion that homosexuality is not a sin. This is my response, but I'm curious to see what others think.

For me, there are two reasons, the first reason was just how I understood the scriptural context.

I honestly didn't and don't care what Leviticus said because if we're going to follow that commandment, we might as well follow ALL of Leviticus, which, most Christians don't, won't and aren't willing to do, and if all Christians are doomed to hell for not following the commandments of the old testament, then virtually every Christian in every denomination since the birth of Catholicism is royally screwed. I also don't believe that homosexuality was the "sin of Sodom" because whenever the "sins" of Sodom are described, homosexuality is never once cited. The closest any verses say is "strange lusts". I'm also not inclined to believe that a God with proper moral authority would sooner punish an entire nation for sexual misbehavior over all the countries that have enslaved, conquered, warred, and have been terrible to citizens both within their nations and outside for centuries.

When it comes to the New Testament regardless of the proper Greek translation of what Paul says in his scriptures, even with a more plain, less scholarly approach (supposing here that Paul meant homosexuality), his basis is entirely incorrect. He assumes that men have "left the natural use of the woman", which presumes that the men were oriented toward women in the first place, and secondly his referral to any relations between two men as "burned in their lusts" implies that he either didn't see, understand or he actively refused to see actual gay love as something that exists, which it incontrovertibly does. I'm not going to trust a statement - even if it's from a divinely appointed messenger of god like Paul if the facts and justifications he provides are just wrong, and Paul is just... wrong. Remember, Paul was still a man, and a fallible man. Even the apostles who Jesus knew personally were prone to stumbling; such denying him three times, doubting him, even betraying him. Thus, it is not unreasonable that Paul's personal biases clouded his written theology.

The second reason, is that if Paul's statement in Romans is a commandment, I can think of no other commandment in all of scripture which inspires and breeds such hatred and un-Christlike actions and thoughts among people. This "commandment" has motivated people to harass, injure, defame, mock, and even kill those who disobey it. It has moved people to invent harmful lies and make terrible uninformed assumptions, even to those who have never engaged in said sin in the first place. It gives people with bigotry already in their hearts justification for their bigotry. Why would Christ create a commandment, that would lead so many to break the second great commandment?