Am I doing enough? :(

I’m a 24 year old girl, living with my 24 year old boyfriend of almost 7 years. We moved in together in 2022, both work full time and can both see a future together, marriage, kids, house, all that.

Our sex life used to be incredible. He’s the first person I ever slept with, and I was his second, but even we know that our intimacy used to be unbeatable. Which is of course normal in the honey moon phase of a young relationship.

Since living together, but more so in the past 1.5yrs, we sleep together once a week or less on average. For me, for my body, for my age, this is not enough. And I don’t trust that he isn’t having alone time when we don’t have sex. I’m a getting sick of being the first to initiate all the time. He doesn’t flirt sexually, only flirts when it’s casual or jokey. But actually flirting with intention is not something he does. It makes me feel unwanted, undesired and just not at all special. Day to day, we are the best of friends who hug, and kiss, and laugh, and joke and I can safely say we both still love eachother very much.

I’ve asked him seriously about it once and he just says he’s tired from work. He works long days and takes up a lot of overtime if he can. So the excuse is totally feasible. I just miss having good sex and feeling intimately and sexually desired. I’m 24 and I have a lot more to give than I’m currently giving. And to me, it’s a shame that the man I love, doesn’t seem to want it.