My sexless marriage has got me on my wits end.

Sorry if this is hard to read, I'm not good at writing and I'm stressed. So, me (31M) and my wife (35F) have been married for 5 years, together for 8. When we first got together, we didn't have sex all the time (Once every week or two) which, I could handle. I do have a very high sex drive compared to her low one. But, after we got married it slowed down even more, probably every couple of months or so. Which again I accepted due to the fact I love her more than anything in the world.

We had a child 2 years ago. We had semi regular sex when we were trying for a child.

I know, that after a child, sex life tends to dry up for a while. Now my daughter is a bit older, sleeping all night in her own room, I've been trying to bring intimacy back into my marriage. She told me I had to get the snip if I ever wanted to have sex with her again. we didn't want anymore children and didn't want to run the risk. Now, since then. We are still yet to have sex.

Intimacy is so important to me and my wellbeing, as it is for most of us.

My wife refuses to even let me cuddle her anymore. I have accepted that I wouldn't be able to have sex as often as I'd like. A few months ago, it got to the point where I can't get it out of my mind. I'm not sleeping well, im stressed all the time, my skin has broken out in spots, I feel so useless. I recently got a better job than ever before, so I know it's not stress related to work. I couldn't even sit next to her alone in the car without getting turned on and anxious. I have gone to a therapist, I am taking anti-anxiety medication, I have spoken countless times to my wife about the lack of intimacy and what it's doing to my mental health. Her response is always "I don't understand" or "what do you expect me to do about it?" Or she'll "promise" sex on a set time when we're alone, but she always has some kind of excuse why I can't happen at that time.

I'm at my wits end. I'm trying so hard for her and my family, I'm working hard, I'm paying all the bills, making sure she and my daughter never want for anything. I've cried myself to sleep most nights, I've tried to speak to her, tried every thing I can think of to try and get her to be intimate. But, I feel like she doesn't even see me or care.

I have ended up so anxious and angry at points that I have completely put walls up, not chasing anymore because I can't deal with the constant rejection. I'm stuck, I'm trapped, I love my wife. I love my family. But, I hate where it all is right now.