My house is disgusting since I started working from the office

I just got back from an overseas work trip and my house is a complete mess. I’ve been home for two weeks and I’m honestly too embarrassed to invite anyone over.

I work a fairly high-level job and I’m now the main income earner. I’m in the office five days a week, usually 10-hour days, plus extra work at home and regular overseas travel. I used to work from home and was on top of all the house chores back then, but this new role has completely changed my capacity.

My partner works from home four days a week. He walks the dogs, goes to the gym about five times a week, and cooks dinner, but somehow the house still isn’t getting managed. We have two dogs, a cat, and one child. When I worked from home (10-hour days, sometimes six days a week), I was still able to manage the house. I don’t understand why it feels impossible now.

Right now there’s thick dust everywhere. The kitchen counters are grimy. The microwave is filthy and sticky inside. The fridge has spoiled food in it. The pantry and cupboards are chaos — plates mixed up, containers with no lids, everything just piled on top of each other. There are empty boxes from online orders everywhere. Our walls are dirty, windows haven’t been cleaned in a year, and there are areas that haven’t been touched for ages.

We’ve been eating terrible dinners for a week — just boxed grocery barbecue meat thrown in the oven with rice. I’m so sick of it. I used to cook proper meals every day. Now if I don’t do groceries, we literally have nothing to eat.

My weekends are spent grooming the dogs, doing laundry, cooking, cleaning bathrooms — and I still can’t catch up. My partner does some things like gardening, but the overall house management just isn’t happening. He still wants time for himself (gym, games, etc.) which I understand — but I didn’t really have that luxury when I was managing everything.

I’m looking into hiring a cleaner, but I’m honestly embarrassed about how bad the house is. I also feel like we need to declutter because there’s so much stuff we don’t even use anymore, but I don’t even have the time or mental energy to sort through it.

I don’t know where to start. I feel overwhelmed, embarrassed, resentful, and exhausted.

Has anyone else gone through this kind of shift where your job capacity changed but the household expectations didn’t? How did you reset everything without losing your mind? I'm also very embarrassed that will admit that I use ChatGPT to edit all this because I don't even have the mental energy to edit what I just wrote.