Realised the bedroom is analogous to the whole marriage

I work full time. I do all the household chores. I repair and redecorate. When I'm not doing that, I'm looking after our child and my kids from a previous marriage.

She's been unemployed for 3 years. She goes to bed early, does her hobbies all day when not shopping - sometimes for groceries, mainly for herself and our kid.

Despite this, she says I don't help with our kid enough, or I'm out at activities with my kids too much, or I've cleared away something she left out and now can't find it.

On the rare occasion we do have sex, she basically lays there and expects a flash of her pussy to be all it needs to drive me wild. No touching, no talking, no show of desire.

It's all made me not actually want sex or any kind of intimacy with her and just find things to do to better myself, or indeed the pigsty of a house we live in because I have to maintain it all myself. Which of course makes me a bit distant and averse to physical touch - which she doesn't understand.

So I guess it's the same thing at every level - she wants things to suit her but without making any real contribution herself.

Oh, and she "doesn't do talking about problems".

Happy Valentine's Day everyone!