Dating is not a reward for self improvement. Dating is a skill by itself.

One thing I've noticed is we tend to do everything other than doing the actual thing.

Hitting the gym, personality development, etc...

In some ways self improvement can be a distraction or an excuse.

Ofcourse it helps you become a better person and will definitely help in dating but it's not a direct skillset.

So many men ask stuff like I hit the gym, I make great money - why are women not into me?

In some ways it's kinda entitled attitude.

You gotta express your romantic and sexual desires in an authentic way.