Sharing my Online Dating Story and Advice I would give to myself

I've had my fair share of experience dating online. This post isn't asking for advice, but it is giving advice to you all after I learned it the hard way.

Reminder that I am just a person on the internet so feel to take this however you want.

This scenario is between me [19M (femboy)] and this girl, [18F].

It started roughly 10 months ago. This might not seem like a long time but it really was. I was playing this game on Roblox (yes I know, it might be childish) called Mic Up. The premises of the game is you go around this map and talk to people using the voice chat feature. I joined the game to troll with a couple friends when I met this girl and this guy at this little area where they were asking people questions. I stayed there for a little while before the girl, who's user is dootiedoob (Larissa), added me. I sent her a goodnight message and she sent one back before I went to bed. The next day we played mic up again. The beginning of this relationship between me and Larissa was normal. We bonded over stuff such as volleyball and hello kitty, so we quickly became close friends.

The start of the drama happened when she introduced me to some of her friends; key_gh0ul (Keyaira), Tjandt7 (Paco), Laila_damp (Laila), and Anna (user does not exist anymore so I am using her real name). All of us played Mic Up pretty much every day until we started playing other Roblox games, but that happened later. Apparently Laila had this issue with this guy named jayden and it was a whole thing she wouldn't stop fucking yapping about. They were all single. Paco was kind of just there in this whole relationship and is currently the only one out of the 4 that I still talk to. For the first 2 months, this guy named Kai kept on obsessing over Larissa. I naturally told her to just block him and move on, but it took her 2 fucking months to do so, which really should've been a red flag in my mind but at the time I thought she was just stupid.

Kai kept on flirting with Larissa, buying her stuff in games, babying her, basically manipulating her into a relationship. I tried numerous times to stop her, but my attempts were met with "But that would be mean" and "He is really nice." Eventually, I started having feelings for Keyaira, so we had a brief romantic relationship which ended when her ex, HVTLP34 (Landon), had come back, and she had turned cold towards me for no real reason. I let them be and moved on. Around this time, the only other person I talk to now besides Paco, Nightmars_65 (Noah) came along. Noah was nice, he was interested in Blue Lock, so we became friends. After the whole Keyaira thing, eventually me and Lari got together because she confessed her feelings to me and I had developed feelings for her as well. This was about a month into the Kai dispute, so during our relationship I kept on trying to pursued her to block him. Eventually she did, and everything had calmed down in the friend group so we were kind of just living our lives.

I went on a trip to New York for a week so me and Larissa talked less. During my trip, she had secretly been in a relationship with Noah, which I was oblivious of at the time. She was down bad for him, like begging him to fuck her and whatnot. I thought our relationship was healthy, but when I got home she said that she started having feelings for Noah while I was away, which I found to be pretty understandable. I told her she should unadd him because we were in a relationship and she should be loyal to me. TLDR, she never did. We fought about it constantly, which made her try to "leave" multiple times. I also fought with Noah about it, which lead to me destroying him and I's friendship. Keyaira and Landon were constantly causing drama and breaking up with each other every other week because Landon kept on cheating on her but she kept going back. Eventually the whole thing got too much for Paco and he straight up left the friend group entirely, and so did I, blocking everyone besides Larissa and him. Larissa claimed to have blocked Noah but she actually didn't and was still flirting with him on the side. I only went back to the whole friend group one day when Laila said she wanted to kill herself and Larissa told me so I went to check on her. Since Laila and Keyaira are sisters, I became friends with Keyaira again and we slowly all became friends again.

This whole time apparently Laila also had a crush on me, which I found out about 2 months ago. She then spread a lie that me and her had masturbated on call together, which was blatantly untrue, so I blocked her again.

Eventually, about 6 months later, me and Larissa broke up on "good terms". Over the course of the next few months, she would get with 4 GUYS at the same time. I never knew about it until now, and she would still occasionally flirt with me as well. Essentially she was a cheater, a player, and frankly a slut because all she wanted to do was masturbate with us on discord voice calls.

This all leads up to 3 weeks ago, when I wake up and see that Larissa had blocked me on everything. After all the advice and help I tried to give her, the time and care I invested in her, it was all thrown away. I contacted her current boyfriend, Zodd, and he said that she was quote on quote "uncomfortable" and that he didn't like that I had her still added since she was my ex, so she basically forced her to block me. I knew after that moment that I should've never dated Larissa, and should've never invested that much time and care into her.

I reached out to Noah, apologized for being a dick to him. I reached out to Paco, told him what happened and was met with the usual "what". Now I am here, explaining my story to you guys, and giving you advice on online dating.

Once again, I am some random person on the internet and you don't have to listen to me if you don't want to, but I want to give you all valuable advice. Online dating, and dating in general, usually ends badly. In an online relationship, there is a very strong possibility you are being played or cheated on because you don't know what other messages the other person is sending to other people. I don't think it is worth the time and effort you put into someone. The relationships usually feel deeper than they actually are.

If you do end up trying to online date someone, watch out for the early red flags. Doesn't matter if its the people they hang out with, a way they talk, weird or suspicious activity, if it's a red flag get the fuck out of the relationship faster than Max Verstappen's lap time in italy.

I learned my lesson through this experience and will never online date, and probably date, ever again

Thank you all if you reached it this far, and feel free to comment any questions you have, or advice for the future you want to give me. Everything is appreciated. Also, sending this on Valentine's day, so Happy Valentine's day to everyone that celebrates!