Hi, I need council. I'm sure you guys would have some good advice, or someone to talk to.

I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 20. She's around 3-4 weeks pregnant right now. A happy accident, definitely not planned at all. It's our first.

We do not want it. We both definitely agree on that. We're too young, we're still in school, we dont have a lot of money, and we both still havent moved out of our homes yet. Abortion is definitely the way to go, my girlfriend has already booked the appointments with her doctor, the process has begun. We haven’t told anyone, she wants it to be a secret and I do too. She said I could make this post because she thinks itll help me.

I never thought I'd be a father now, even if we're getting rid of the thing. Its so surreal. Like we made a person. A little person. We made someone. I thought I wanted it, I've wanted kids since as long as I can remember but now its happening its reset my thoughts and spun me for a loop. When I stay with her and I watch her have morning sickness and talk about how it feels and how uncomfortable it is, I feel so bad and I just want the whole thing over for her sake, it makes me feel terrible that shes got to go through all that and I get to watch.

I don't really know what to think. Part of me wants to keep it, raise it, have a family with the love of my life, but at the same time, the rational side of my brain is saying all the things I mentioned before. Not enough money, not finished school, still at home, havent finished school yet.

I guess I just need a vent, honestly. An outlet to express myself. I dont really know what's going on or what to expect. What was your guys' experience with this situation?