Struggle to communicate with Chinese people

I speak fluent mandarin

And I go on QQ and Weibo and I often find myself can’t relate much to Chinese people

For example many jokes they say are consider very offensive in the Staes . And also the racism towards blacks .they will cuss people out saying stuff like “ is your mom get fucked by a black guy “

And I also find the lack of empathy towards people who are struggling. They will say things like “ what does it have to do with me ? “ “ stop bring in negativity towards people life

I find it very very hard to relate to them it’s almost feels like they are all about what is happening towards themselves and not about other people

And it’s the exactly opposite in the US we were taught of care and fight for everyone and be ware of everyone’s feelings .

This sucks .