Completely dead bedroom

Am I the only one sleeping on the couch while their partner is passed out drunk, before 10 pm and on Valentines night???? The romance, intimacy or desire is gone. Me (40/HLF) and my husband (35/LLM) had a wonderful, kids free night while they are at grandma's house we have the WHOLE house to ourselves a first in a few years! and he dips into the moonshine and now I am masterbating alone on a couch pissed off. In the begginging we would have sex anywhere anytime constantly for years like that until we moved into another house 3 years ago and it slowly dwindled to non existent. We talked and realized the porn was an issue, but now its known to be an issue he is still doing it even worse ill be upstairs getting the kids to bed fully willing and able come downstairs and please and he's already done and not interested in me. it has really messed with my head thinking it has to be hes not attracted to me or perhaps it is someone else. I am at a loss, I have tried to pretend the lack of affection and intimacy doesn't bother me but I am dying inside. How can someone that vows to spend eternity with not want to touch you or be intimate? He believes there is nothing wrong and that all.couples go through dry spells. Am I just being impatient? TIA