I will not accept anything less than yearning

I (30F) will be getting a divorce in some time. My stbx (32M), was emotionally unavailable, became nonchalant and didn't really pursue me. When I reenter the dating scene, I will accept nothing less than yearning. The 90s backstreet boys, or man crying in the rain in a silk shirt type of yearning. I have been married for 3 years. The indifference of my spouse nearly erased me. If I'm to share my life with someone again, they need to be enthusiastic and vulnerable enough to show it. I won't settle again. It's too painful.

TL;DR: BRING BACK YEARNING