AIO for kicking my bf out after he said he didn’t care about my nails?

Ok I know the short title sounds crazy, but I [19F] have had a terrible habit of picking at my nails for years, I mean I would pick them until they were bleeding and the skin underneath the nail was showing. For the past year I’ve been trying very hard to break this habit and yesterday, while my bf [19M] was over, my nails have grown past my finger a little for the first time in god knows how long. This is a huge accomplishment for me so I went to show him.

I told him that my nails had grown out really far and tried to show him my hands. He didn’t really look at them, just a glance, and said “that’s cool, babe.” Now I understand that he was focused on a show he likes and that he’s not into my more “girly” things but that’s not what this is to me, so I got his attention again and re-explained what I was showing him. He then flat out said he didn’t care and to stop bothering him and pushed my hands away from him.

This had me fuming so I told him to leave my apartment. He got defensive and said things along the line of “sorry, show me again, what’s up?” Stuff like that. I said it was too late to ask again when I gave him 2 chances already. He then got blew up and said that it was too much to kick him out, that he had skipped plans with his friends to come over, and that if he would’ve known this would happen he would’ve just said no to coming over and went with his friends. He left after I had no reaction to the comments.

Today he called me a couple times to wake me up and I answered. He proceeded to say that he was sorry and that “I know he just isn’t into girly stuff” I told him that it was more than that, this is an accomplishment after a lifetime struggle with something that was harming me and he just ignored that. I then said that I was glad he was sorry but I was still upset, at which point he interrupted me to call me a bitch, say that not everyone has to share my interests, and that people won’t baby me just because of my diagnosis. Said diagnosis being an autism diagnosis from a few months prior which he also did not care about.

I hung up on him and muted his number, but his comments got me thinking. Am I missing something? I feel like I explained why his actions upset me so much and I was fully willing to talk this out with him as we have with all our other issues but he seems extremely unwilling, he’s never been this blatantly rude about his disinterest before in our 3 year relationship. Am I overreacting?