Need the real answer from actual men

I’m a newly divorced woman in early 40’s and was married 20 years. I must admit I have a pessimistic view of the whole dating thing at my age. Largely in part to my ex spouse being the only comparable example and the seemingly endless onslaught of women these days fear-mongering about men etc. I’m trying to keep an open mind and figured it makes sense to ask dudes about dudes so here it goes. With all the white noise out there, it makes me feel as though divorced men of my age are looking for younger women, and younger women are looking for “security” from those same men, which if there is truth in it, leaves women like me in a dead zone. Is this completely BS? I want the no sugarcoating answer. I’m not ready for dating yet, still nursing my burns, but I’m just wondering the likelihood I’ll spend my remaining years solo. Cheers! And hang in there. If all else fails, a dog is all you need.