AITAH for getting upset at my boyfriend for not listening or helping me? 23F 24M

My boyfriend and I are staying in a cabin with about 20 people. For the past 3–4 days, the only thing anyone has been eating is pizza. Breakfast, lunch, dinner pizza. I finally hit my limit and asked my boyfriend if there was any other food. He said someone made mushrooms and there was leftover pizza. I told him clearly, “I’m not eating pizza again. I’ll just wait until we go out to get food.”

Instead of respecting that, he went downstairs and told everyone I was hungry, which wasn’t even the issue. Then he comes back up saying, “They’re warming up pizza for you.” The exact thing I said I didn’t want. It made me look picky or helpless when I was actually being very clear.

On top of that, we have to share a bathroom with three people and we have an early flight tomorrow. He told me earlier that he would help me pack before going out. So I started packing our stuff an hour and a half early, laying out clothes, organizing everything, thinking he’d come back up soon.

He didn’t. He stayed downstairs for like 45 minutes eating and hanging out. Meanwhile I’m upstairs doing everything alone. When he finally came back, I told him he literally plays slow all the time to avoid doing things because anytime we travel for reference I help pack both our things his helping is him passing me clothes that I picked out for him and pack or when we leave to go back home same thing just handing it to me when I still have to fold or even listening to me, and that it’s actually annoying. Because it’s a pattern he doesn’t listen, he doesn’t follow through, and then acts confused when I’m frustrated.

Between the pizza situation and the packing situation, I just feel unheard and dismissed. I wasn’t asking for anything crazy just real food and some help with our shared responsibilities.

AITA for being upset?

Posted Feb 15, 2026, 8:44 PM UTC · locked

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