Need advice

I’m 23 year old female. Live in Delhi. I met this guy around 2 years ago on a dating app. We started hooking up and it was all casual, but exclusively casual. But something shifted i guess and he started liking me and so he pulled away because both of us weren’t in that headspace. But there was this unfinished energy between us. We kept going on and off for almost 6 months after that.

Last year, my life changed a lot and i wanted something more serious and grounded for myself. So when this guy hit me up again, i told him I’m not looking for the same things anymore and I want something which had potential and can build in the future. He said he cannot emotionally invest so much and so I told him that’s okay. But i would request him to not reach out to me for booty calls and stuff. A month later, he calls me again and tells me he wants to take me out and talk to me. I asked him what shifted and he said he just keeps coming back to me. Like i said there was unfinished energy so I thought why not. But i got to know through a mutual friend that he was seeing someone else at the same time. And because it was her word over his, i confronted the guy and he was so diplomatic and avoidant so i just let him go. I unfriended him. A month later, he reached out to me again and called me and i told him I’m busy on another call and it’ll take time and he waited for me to get free till like 4 in the morning. So I called him back and he apologised and explained to me that he was talking to another girl and he was talking to me and honestly it was harmless to me so I considered the slate clear. We didn’t talk for months until last December he reached out to me again and said he wants to try and that he cannot forget me and he is sorry about how things worked out and then he told me that he has been having a tough time with his family. So his parents were on the verge of a divorce and he doesn’t talk to his dad anymore and a whole lot of chaos. And i felt bad and i understood that maybe he was not in the headspace for anything solid and things were chaotic. So i gave him another chance and I was honest to him. I was vulnerable with him and I told him that I don’t want any shit and before we really get into anything I want to see if he means all these things that he’s saying. But to my disappointment, after that call he didn’t call me, didn’t text me and no effort, just silence which was an answer in itself. So just before new year, i dropped him a text respectfully that I understood him and gave him space and time to actually show me that his actions and words match but he couldn’t and i don’t have more patience and time to give to him. So please don’t reach out to me again. And i removed him from snapchat which is where our conversation was happening mostly.

Cut to a day before valentines, he texted me on Instagram haha (i had forgotten we were connected there since he is really inactive there and we barely used that app). I asked him what’s up and v basic conversation until he said can i call you. I was busy so i said I’ll call you later and when I did, we were talking normally until he said “let me take you out properly” and i was just laughing. I said bro please we’ve been down that road before and we know where it ends. But he kept saying just give me one more chance, just trust me one last time, only a little trust to go out with me once. I asked him what will be different this time and he said i know I’m the problem and i know i have been very on and off but i really mean it this time. And i kept saying that he would do the same thing again and I’m scared. Then he said i jus want you to meet me once, i don’t want anything else but to talk to you face to face. I just want you to be a part of my life. And i melted there and i told him okay. Let’s do it. Let’s meet. We discussed this on friday and we decided to go for dinner on sunday. He said he’d pick me up at 9 on Sunday. And then i had some work so i told him I’ll call you later but i got free pretty late so i couldn’t.

So i texted him on Saturday that sorry couldn’t call back yesterday and the conversation was v slow until today it was full banter conversation, flirty and kind of with a sexual innuendo and all that but no mention of the dinner and i thought I’ll wait. But today was also India vs Pak and i know everyone would want to see it. Me too. So i texted him around 7 if our plan was still on and he said “what time? My family is over at our place for the match and i can only leave after they leave”

And i was so stunned. I just expected him to tell me this. If you knew the plan will change, when were you going to tell me. I get it family coming over was sudden and his intention was not to cancel, but he should have updated me. And even after that, since he was the one who changed the plan, he should have proposed another time. I was okay with that. But i wanted the accountability. The last message i sent to him was “oh, understood “ and he still hasn’t replied.

I don’t know. One part of me thinks that if I have decided to give him one last chance, this one moment should not mean a lot. This is information, yes but it’s not that important. The other part of me is remembering the past moment with him where i know he said huge things and then disappeared. So every tiny thing he does wrong will tell me that I was wrong to trust him. And once again, i let him take me for granted.

HELP ME. I’m spiralling. I want a completely unbiased opinion.