Getting ready for DV court need some words from the thread

I recently ended a 18 month relationship with my ex upwbpd

I have a similar story as many of you here gave it my all, paid for everything in 18 months, helped her in her crisis, with school, eventually I was picking up and dropping off her 3 year old daughter at day care and had to change my Schedule around to do so, would come home after working all day cook dinner and serve her as well

For some reason it wasn’t enough the emotional abuse started

“You give me the bare minimum”

“I can’t believe you had a gf before me”

“I am training you how to be with a woman”

The classic gems and amongst other things

Eventually violence came into the picture

First one was on my bday where she misinterpreted a message from a female colleague she ended up slapping me a few times outside brunch on a busy nyc street people called the cops but I refused to press charges

Once we spoke about it big red flag was she showed no remorse blamed it all on me even though I left her call the female colleague who said we are nothing but friends

Following month I am out for a work event she gets mad come home to her punching me and bringing up bday situation

Next month after get punched in the arm twice during her splitting

Following month after gets upset over a work schedule change and thought I was lying and was cheating ends up slapping me in front of her daughter and threw my phone against the wall, glass of wine spills in her 3 year old face

The situation that sealed the deal was this past December at my holiday party of course we get into an argument before hand she thought I didn’t want to take her because I am fucking someone else we end up going and missing the dinner aspect of it

I walk by a female colleague who my ex knows (me and my ex actually went to my female colleagues 25th wedding anniversary dinner 3 weeks prior to my holiday party so nothing to hide you would think)

So since we missed dinner me and my ex said we ll order pizza and take it home so since the party was loud and people were doing karaoke I told her I ll step outside to order it

She gets upset she thinks it’s now my master plan to meet my female colleague outside of the restaurant and mind you her husband was also there and we all had pleasant conversation 30 mins prior

We leave the party and now outside she’s screaming at me that I don’t know boundaries and I am so disrespectful and that 3 weeks prior at the anniversary dinner my female colleague had touched my chest and she now thinks she was trying to lure me outside at the holiday party

She punches me in the face swings her handbag at me multiple times where the metal part hits me on the side of the face and my lip leaving me with bruises all over my face and a busted lip we get to my car she’s screaming to take her home, in the car she’s continuing her rant

Now she realizes she has no one to take her daughter to day care the next day calls me back doesn’t even look me in the face or the next am either I took her daughter to day care knowing it would be the last time I would see her

I went and filed a police report 2 days later

She was arrested 15 days later for assault

I now have to deal with the aftermath

I have blurry vision in my left eye, chronic headaches, malaise, can’t concentrate, brain fog and I work as a physician/surgeon

I got a ct of the brain which is negative

I also have a lesion inside my lips which pushes against my gums

I already spoke to the da and said I am moving fwd with pressing charges

I am saving all my medical records, bills and lost wages and hoping to get some restitution

Just need some positive words from the members of this thread I been really going through a difficult time I been prescribed anti anxiety medications

It’s the betrayal from someone you laid next to and did almost everything you could have that hurts