what’s the deal with big pauses in hard techno?

i notice a lot of hard techno and industrial djs have a tendency to do these big dramatic build ups, then a total pause, fake drop, another pause, then finally drop it but only for like 15 seconds. what’s the appeal? i find it extremely difficult to dance to, im never sure what to do with myself when there’s

frequent complete pauses especially when the length of each pause isn’t consistent (i.e. not a full beat or measure that matches the track). it really throws off my flow, i enjoy hard techno quite a bit but it seems like only half the set is actually danceable music. why is this so common?