Sudden drop in attraction to my new boyfriend and I don’t understand why

Hi everyone,

I’m really confused about what’s happening in my relationship and I could use some perspective.

I started dating this guy about 8 weeks ago. In the beginning, it was intense. We connected so quickly, texted all the time, saw each other a lot, and the attraction felt really strong. I felt butterflies, excitement, almost obsession-level thinking about him. We both have anxious attachment styles, so there was a lot of reassurance-seeking, especially from me. I would ask him for reassurance often, and he gave it. I felt like I needed it once a week.

Then almost overnight, something shifted.

It wasn’t that he did anything wrong. He’s still kind, consistent, emotionally available, and genuinely cares about me. But I woke up one day and the intense attraction just… dropped. Not completely gone, but dulled. I don’t crave reassurance the same way. I don’t feel that same urgency or spark. And now I’m scared.

I don’t know if:

The initial intensity was just anxiety + dopamine.

Now that I feel more secure, my nervous system isn’t in overdrive, so it feels “boring.”

I’m subconsciously deactivating because things got real.

Or if I’m actually just losing interest.

What confuses me most is that he hasn’t changed. If anything, he’s been stable and good. I want to feel attracted. I don’t want to self-sabotage something healthy just because it’s calm.

Has anyone experienced a sudden drop in attraction like this early on? Did it come back? Is this what happens when anxious attachment settles down? Or is this a sign I’m forcing something that isn’t right?

I feel guilty because he’s genuinely a good guy. I don’t want to lead him on, but I also don’t want to run from something healthy just because my nervous system is addicted to intensity.

Would really appreciate any insights.