AITAH for confronting my husband about his mom’s overbearing behaviour

I need the insights to call me out or help me understand this situation. When I met my husband (32/M) , I was attracted to him in ways more than the physical aspect . Mostly because he is family-oriented and respectful in nature and he is ambitious.

All the more that I got to know him deeply, I realised how he has failed to launch in life and how his mom has been the smothering and overbearing parent in the house. It did not help that he was the only child and his mom smothered him all the way. I feel like an asshole for realizing that her way of parenting contributed to him being socially inept, awkward and has got no clue of how the world works outside their home. I had so much empathy for him at the start but my patience is running thin as I feel like I am becoming like a mother in teaching him how the world works when he should have learned that at an earlier stage in life if he was not infantilize.

To provide context of how overbearing his mom is, one time, we went out on a vacation with my in-laws and my husband’s luggage was overpacked. His mom jumped the queue to open his luggage infront of the world to see and repack his clothes. Just like a superhero coming out of nowhere to rescue his son.

AITAH if I will bluntly confront my husband of his mom’s behaviour and at the same time, how can I navigate from here. I do love him and willing to talk things out.