Move from assisted living to memory care

Dad's buddies in assisted living have all moved to memory care because they did something kooky and had to move. Trying to take the wheelchair down the stairs, for instance.

Then they get to memory care and they go downhill pretty fast. It's a chicken and egg situation. So Dad and I go down to memory care to visit his buddies and I get to see how things work down there.

The services dad would receive in memory care would be SO much more appropriate for Dad. No confusing hallways to walk down. No elevators. Everyone there is 100% ready to help Dad go every place he needs to go 100% of the time, including to whatever activity is happening. Dad wouldn't constantly be put in a circle of people who are cognitively capable and annoyed that they got stuck with him again. It would just be much better for him.

But he doesn't HAVE to go. The ALF isn't demanding it. And it's easy to see that people go downhill pretty quickly when they go down there.

In the meantime, all Dad does when I'm not with him is lay in bed, lights off, no TV, no radio, and stares at the ceiling. Memory Care would be much better for him.

I don't know if I have to wait for the call when the ALF tells me that Dad was found walking down the road with no shoes on or something. Or can I put Dad in Memory Care just because I think it would be better for him. I feel like maybe it's alot of effort for dementia people to try (and fail) to act cognitively capable around people who are cognitively capable and then after they move to memory care and the pressure is off, they just relax and are able to be the person that they are. And so they go downhill quickly. But this is a losing battle anyway you look at it, right? Is it more humane to force them to try to fit into an environment unsuitable for them?

How do you decide?

TLDR: When is memory care appropriate?