i (16) am my mother (52)'s maid of honor

hi!

so my soon-to-be stepdad proposed on valentine's day and my mom wants me to be her MoH. yay! right? (is this normal i've never heard of daughter MoHs but obvi i'm too old for flower girl hahaha)

but i've been looking through these posts and the MoH has to do, like, a LOT. i've never been in a wedding before and i feel so in over my head. some of these responsibilities i could probably handle but as a non- financially independent minor i'm lost on most.

what am i expected to do or what should i expect to do? i know the answer is "ask her" but she's my mom and she's gonna pull a "whatever you can handle it's ok i don't need much" and try to minimize everything and probably never ask me for help with anything because she's scared of burdening me. if anyone could give me some guidance it would be really appreciated!! ty :)