My friend (18M) chose their bf over me (18M)

For context (while also trying not to reveal everything because i’m still trying to be considerate) My best friend and their bf (19?M) have been in a rocky relationship. I won’t add too much detail but from what I know he’s controlling, he’s cheated several times, etc. Their bf does not like me, and I don’t like him either. I know my friend is in what i’d call an abusive relationship. I’m afraid of revealing too much because my friend is also a reddit user, or was until the bf made them delete it.

Me, My boyfriend (18M) and my friend shared a group chat because we are all friends and have all been friends for a couple of years. Throughout my day at work I would share my thoughts and what happened in said group chat and I never heard back from my friend. As I get home from my shift and look at my phone I noticed that they silently blocked me as well as my boyfriend. I would hope that he wouldn’t WANT to do that, but the fact that he did it anyways really hurt me. I feel like an asshole because I know that it’s probably not him that decided to do that, but they had already planned to end the relationship on valentines day, and the day prior to as i’m typing this.

Do I just try to move on? This is someone i’ve been close with for so long and we have had our hardships in the past, but this time it felt uncalled for. Should my feelings be hurt this bad? Do I wait for my friend to reach out to me? I’m sorry if it sounds like a mess, I’m confused myself

Posted Feb 17, 2026, 3:12 AM UTC

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