DAE ever got victim-blamed by their own therapist?

I remember when I was a teenager at age 17 when I had this therapist whom I thought I can trust and feel emotionally safe with.

I once shared with her about my bullied experience by someone whom I thought were good acquaintance but was actually just a negative jerk who thinks I deserve mental torment just because I want to give him some helpful advice for self-improvement (turns out, the guy thinks I am being pushy or whatever negative things he thinks about me), since I care about him. But then in return, he would constantly harass me and make me feel horrible about myself.

After I shared with her about this, she told me that it was my fault for getting bullied and hurt by him, and that I should have not offer him an advice on how to improve on certain situations, even when I was trying to help him since I care about him. I was speechless on that moment with a therapist whom I supposed to feel safe and comfortable with, not expecting harsh judgements or victim-blaming from her.

She also told me to empathize and understand with my bully and why he bullied me, but then I asked her why? Why should I, as a victim of bullying, should offer empathy for someone that turns out to be an asshole who torment me to misery after I thought he was a friend? She told me that he did it because of me and “what I did”, that it was my fault for that.

To this day, I am at early 20s now, and moments like this still hit me like a fucking brick. I hope their whole beds get extremely hot and uncomfortable.