How do I (25M) tell my recent friend/gf (24F) that I feel uneasy about how fast she is moving?
So I (25M) recently started dating my friend (24F) after a very long and protracted period of flirting, us dating people at different times, drunk calls, etc. She does have some past relationship trauma so she did not want to rush into dating, but we just recently (this month) started offically going on dates. I was initially very happy, but in the past few weeks I feel uneasy and even unhappy at times. She started calling me multiple times a day to talk for hours and hours, even after full-day dates multiple times a week, she'll call me as soon as I turn around the corner. She's almost too invested, love bombing to the point it's making me uneasy and unhappy. Even after full-day dates she'll track my location and call me as soon as I get home to talk for at least another hour. The other day I was really tired from work (healthcare), and she ranted over the phone about how she's worried I don't like her, and about all the relationships that fell apart that she knows about, and just asking stuff like about if I think I'll break up with her soon, then texting me the same stuff moments after I said I was going to bed. I know she's anxious, but it's non-stop and making me extremely frustrated to the point I've groaned when I'm trying to relax and see her texts or her calling me because I KNOW it's going to be a 3 hour phone call. Before I would be so exited to hear from her, but after like 2 weeks of this it feels like years of interest as been worn away. She also went from a quiet, girly, tomboy who loves videogames, the gym, movies etc to an extremely "girly" person idk how else to describe it. All she'll talk about is makeup and dresses, and not play video games with me. She went from watching anime and moves with me to ONLY wanting to watch lovey dovey K-dramas and K-reality shows that bore me to tears, like it's almost cartoony how overly girly she's being. She's even switched up how she talks to me, going from a relaxed husky voice to this forced higher-pitch cutsey voice. It's like a totally different person, and I have no time to register how I feel about this person because it's a non-stop torrent of overly-affectionate rants so sweet they basically loose value, like it just makes me uncomfortable for her to babble about how she likes my eyes for an hour. I don't know how to talk with her about this, it just seems so much to bring up that I dont know where to start.
Posted Feb 18, 2026, 2:31 AM UTC