"Update" AITAH for "Cheating" on my Wife

Last week I posted this: AITAH for "Cheating" on my Wife

I had a couple people ask for an update and well I personally don't like cliffhangers either so here goes:

After she left I texted her and asked for us to "pause" this fight, but wanted to resume it that weekend. We had plans already for Saturday since it was Valentine's Day where my parents were watching our son. She agreed and the next day and a half felt off but we managed.

Long story short, She agreed . She said saying cheating was out of line. In the moment she was late, couldn't find her phone, thought her husband was watching porn, felt ashamed, and just overall stressed.

I will say we have actually talked a lot about masturbation before but it has not really come up on the last few years, hence a bit of my shock to the situation. She did agree that the video we made was for just this reason, but the she had some interesting views of the situation I had not thought about.

1. She has put on some weight during school. (Please hear me when I say yes I notice, but my gosh she just as beautiful, if not more now than when we made the video) She does not feel as attractive as she did when we made that video, so she felt like I was fantasizing to a younger more attractive version of her.
2. She said she didn't have an issue with masturbation, but she was surprised that it was not just a quick wank and go. She was surprised to see me in our bed, naked and not just quick doing it in the shower. She felt like I put more thought into it than the last few times we have got together, because well in my defense now we just don't have a lot of time as my previous post and many comments mentioned, but in the end she understood.
3. She had been making statements all week, about having a hard time waiting for the weekend where we could finally have some time together. When I said me too to her, she took that as me saving all my "love" for her, hence her comment of her being upset for "pleasuring myself without her" This makes sense to me, especially since as I have gotten older I am more of a once or twice a week and I am satisfied, instead of everyday. So I let her know I understood, but also explained there is a big difference tin satisfaction from sex with her vs masturbating.

So all in all we are good now. We had a great weekend and definitely both got some release.

The last thing I want to point out is a lot of people commented on the Purity Culture of Christianity. I do really agree that there are a lot of things that the Church got wrong in the 90s and 00s, but I really feel like we are progressing past this, that being said though yeah there's still some weirdness there, even for myself and my wife. If anyone has and recs for "Deconstructing" purity culture, but it still being biblically relevant, I would love to see them, as after our talks I think both the wife and I would be interested in this.

Hope this update finds everyone well.