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y2kem

Is it appropriation/queerbaiting for a straight woman to dress androgynous/masculine?

Sorry if this is a stupid question but I’m a straight woman (probably aspec but romantically attracted to men) and I like dressing pretty much as androgynous as possible for both sensory and style reasons. I also just like when people can’t assume my gender right away for some reason.

I’m thinking about cutting my hair really short but the only reservation I have is that I also don’t like wearing makeup and wear baggy clothes so I worry about queerbaiting lesbian women or ‘faking’ something I’m not. Am I just overthinking this (I probably am because I have OCD lol) or is this a genuine concern about looking too masculine for my sexuality?

Also so sorry if this question is really stupid and if I word things weirdly, I’m autistic and have ocd thought loops.

Posted Feb 19, 2026, 3:18 PM UTC

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