Why are so many mascs and butches nonchalant and aloof?

I don’t mean to pass any judgment on this, I’m asking from a place of curiosity because I genuinely want to understand why this is so common. I know there are obviously exceptions to this, that there are definitely mascs and butches who are very friendly and affectionate, they’re not all the same. But this is just what I have experienced in the lesbian dating scene in my area.

I am a femme lesbian who is mainly attracted to mascs and butches, so don’t get me wrong I love them and I don’t want to spread any hate! Ive been dating online, and I’ve just noticed that the femmes that I come across are much more inclined to give compliments, to call me pretty, to flirt, to express their interest more openly, wheareas mascs seem to be more shy and distant with their attraction. It’s like they’re afraid to flirt. And I’m just thinking please flirt with me 😭