People in my home

I can’t handle people in my home/space. I have 5 family members (husband and kids) that I am fine with. But anyone else in my home makes me go into freeze/flight mode. It’s getting worse and worse. It’s like the more people I have, the worse I am getting. I have unconsciously scratched sores into my back as a stress response since two groups (painters/cleaners) have been in the house this week and my oldest son FaceTimed grandparents and began giving a tour of the house, even though the rule of FaceTime is it’s only allowed in your room with permission. Tech is a whole other thing I am struggling with b/c it’s like everyone everywhere has access to me nonstop.

I know some of that stress is due to moving over a year ago and it still looks like we just moved in. So judgment from others is a tiny part of it, but even before now, I hate people in my space, even if it’s for the most part perfect. I try to just sit with the discomfort, but next time the discomfort is just worse.

Is it possible to be too burnt out to try exposing yourself to the stressor? I feel like the bird who has been caged and is pulling out its feathers. The house thing is just the main stressor for the week, but obviously the OCD stuff is constant in many other areas. My In-laws want to visit and we have a family friend who wants to stop by when in town and I want to throw up thinking about it.

Any advice is helpful.