Comparisons with cis guys 😭

How do you all deal with comparing yourselves to random cis dudes at the gym?

I’ve been working out for about a year (at home at first, joined a gym ~3 months ago). Before that I hadn’t really exercised beyond walking and my physically active job since childhood.

I KNOW that I’ve gotten stronger and built muscle and I was feeling good about myself but this morning I made the mistake of googling “average weightlifting numbers” and I’m just SO far behind even the lowest end of the male numbers.

I know that “comparison is the thief of joy” and “the only person I should compare myself with is me” and all that but how are yall actually DOING that? I just feel so far behind.