I’m [31F] starting all over again after boyfriend [33M] said he’s not sure and I’m terrified.

My boyfriend (33M) and I (31F) have been together about 2 years and moved in together around 7 months ago. Until recently, I thought we were solid, we’d travelled together, talked about the future loosely, and I felt committed.

About two weeks ago, after an argument, he told me he loves me and cares deeply about me but doesn’t know if he’s “in love” with me anymore. He said he’s been spiralling internally for a while, feels numb, overwhelmed and has nothing to give emotionally. He said he didn't want to buy with me even though we were meant to in the near future. He asked for space, but didn’t want to officially break up, didn’t want me to date other people and said he’s confused.

Since then, we‘ve been living in the same flat but sleeping in separate rooms. We went around 7 days without speaking at all. Now we’re civil, share meals, small talk only. No real emotional conversations or reassurance. He still does acts of service (makes food, brings tea, helps around the house) but avoids emotional engagement. He hasn’t initiated any “where are we going” conversation since. What’s throwing me is the contradiction.

Meanwhile, I’ve started emotionally detaching. I’m viewing flats, trying to enjoy having my own space and spending more time with my friends. He is aware I’m viewing flats on my own but hasn’t said much other than “how did it go?”. This equally feels so strange and scary. I never thought I’d be possibly starting again from scratch. I was so excited about moving in and put so much effort into building a life, and all along I realise it was just me. What makes it difficult is that he’s also not a nasty or unkind person.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.