How should I find women that are fine with my very small (almost micro girth) penis (21M)?

Obviously size matters (to a degree). Like as long you’re not very far off average you’ll be fine. You can do what most guys can do, just maybe not as well, but most women may be fine with it. But I’m not, I’m significantly away from average. In girth too, which is way more important. That’s gonna be a problem for a lot, most, women.

More often than not, men like me run into issues cuz of this. Take a look at r/smalldickproblems. They’ve experienced shaming, humiliation, ostracisation, the whole package. That terrifies me to my very core. I’ll be seeing a therapist to deal with the shame and self hatred I’ve developed from this knowledge, alongside the fear of dating.

Dating is obviously going to be 1000 times harder than for a typical guy for me because of this. Honestly part of me just wants to give up before I even start (I’m 21), but I know that’ll lead me to a life of bitterness and misery, with regret over never trying.

In other facets, I’m not an unappealing guy. Decent looking, not crazy short (5’8), apparently I have a good personality, good listener, funny, etc etc. But I got this curse, a skinny penis. I’ve had enough interest over the years but I’ve always rejected women over it. I just can’t get past it.

So what do I do? How do I find women fine with it? How do I bring it up?

TLDR: dating with an almost micro (girth) penis, how do I even start?