48 [m4f] #pdx #portland #oregon married looking for my long term secret flame. POCs encouraged to respond

I am a happily married man with someone I love. She is my life partner and I look forward to growing old with her. But her interest in intimacy vanished years ago for specific reasons, and since then the romantic angle of our relationship has faded to a very light version of what it once was. I miss the wanting and being wanted. I miss a kiss you can feel in your toes or feeling like you’re going to explode if you don’t take each other. I miss being close and alone with someone and feeling like the rest of the world has slipped away and just us two exist.

I bc am looking for a woman and only a woman. I wish I was bi. It would double my mate pool. I’m not even kinda into guys. Guys, not waste your time.

I moved here recently so I have left most of my social unit behind. I therefore have ongoing space for not just a physical relationship but an emotional attraction as well. I am super attracted to someone’s personality and love wit, charm, a good conversationalist, and confidence. I want something long term so I will hold out for someone I could fall for and am looking for someone that has that space as well.

I’m 5’9”, outgoing, ambitious, creative, somewhat weird, curious…white collar job but I was a bartender and I hope my personality is more reflective of that type of vibe. I love all things media and music, discovering the nature around this beautiful part of the world, coffee, and my pets. I’m looking for someone hopefully in their 40s or there abouts. I’m attracted to a wide range of body types and every ethnicity possible - I could not imagine discriminating on the basis of skin color or ethnicity. I love people who are philosophically similiar, but some difference is great too and can make for some hot attraction. I’m hoping to chat for a bit to discover each other and build rapport before meeting, but I do plan on meeting within weeks not months so please be ready to meet offline. Otherwise just bring a sense of humor and positive attitude of discovery and we’ll be good.

Please know who you are, what you want, and that you have the space for a long term secret relationship that is open to feelings and emotions. I do envision a hyper physical relationship with a high percentage of our meets involving intimacy (hopefully incredible intimacy) but am also open to meeting in between being able to see each other for “extended time” for coffee or lunch or the occasional event or fun time as our opsec situations allow. Hyper physical doesn’t mean purely physical. My attention and adoration of you should drive the physical; it should not work in reverse. Also, please be honest. I am and adult and can take it. I recently spent months talking to someone only to be left with shifting explanations that are obviously not true. I will pay you the same respect and will put my cards on the table if need be. I love a wide range of body types and nationalities but especially love women of color and women who have unique style substance or features. 420 friendly a plus for potential doob walks.

Im a hopeless romantic that lives to make out and loves romantic style intimacy borne of true want for another. Just letting the beauty of them drip all over me and drive me crazy. I like a balance of soft and slow with rough and aggressive. I love finding ways to please my partner and explore sexually with them, and my big things is liking several rounds of play. I prefer the opposite of a quickie. If I’m into you, it’s tough to get my fill.

Drop a line if this resonates with you and you would like to chat. If you send a pic I am happy to send a face pic in reply. Please mention your favorite music album in your reply so I know you read this far! Above all I am looking to avoid low effort people.