F(29) asking about how to make anal and bj’s better for me and my man

I love sex and I love anal but I feel like an amateur and I feel like my enthusiasm is basically what keeps it hot. I think I’m asking more about movements and the more physical side of how to make it good cause when I wanna do hot things to his butt I basically put on some latex gloves and try to be gentle and just play but I feel like I don’t know what I’m looking for or how to make it good for him because I don’t have a prostrate and I just enjoy the fullness and how overwhelming it is, but he’s not like that and I don’t know how to blow his mind with butt stuff.

With blow jobs, I don’t have a penis so I have only what I’ve learned from him and he doesn’t know how to give instructions or advice? I have a pretty bad gag reflex that I’ve tried to tame but no tricks have helped.

I just want to know how to blow my man’s mind with skill not just with how eager I am to make him feel good (tho I intend to keep that as I level up). He’s also basically my first everything so all I know is from porn (books and video), research (books and articles), and talking to people but I’ve learned that talking about sex with people in person is a bit dangerous so I’m hoping yall amazing ones can help me out here.

I also want to give him some ideas for how to make anal better for me, but if this only really applies to men, that’s okay too

Whatever works really well for you is what I wanna know more about, whatever you’re comfy sharing. Thank you!