Ex boyfriend is stalking me
I posted this on the /r domesticabuse subreddit and they told me to come post it here
Location: UK
I, 18F, got broken up with by my ex bf, 17M, over 7 months ago. We were together for a little over 7 months? So we’ve been broken up longer than we were together. He broke up with me as he claimed I was ‘abusive’, if I’m being honest I believe this to be true to an extent as I’ve grown up in a dv situation, as stated in previous posts I’ve made here, however that isn’t an excuse. Although I later found out the real reason he broke up with me becuase he was cheating on me with his MOTHER and a transgender (mtf) which he had brought near me multiple of times. We broke up in July and ever since has been stalking and harassing me. In the first two weeks of us breaking up, I was admittedly doing it as he had broken up with me over text after hours earlier having sex with me. Although as soon as I stopped he started. There was an incident where I ran into him at an adult play area night while I was with my friend group. It got physical between me and his friends, later to find out two of my ‘friends’ and the ex boyfriend had orchestrated the incident. Later on in summer when I was meeting up with men , yes I know dangerous and hoeish, the ex boyfriend would find them and messgae them saying I’m crazy and to stay away and that I’m his?, this happened multiple of times and then the ex befriended the two ex friends from the play area incident and also befriended my best friends ex gf too. This is relevant as the ex gf was in my friend group, then I found out from one of the guys I was messing with tht the ex was now frequenting places I go to. Which wasn’t an issue till I ran into him twice. However he didn’t interact with me as each time I was going to meet up with current boyfriend, 17M. This is where another problem started, I met my current bf through a friend andit turned out that the current bf was in the same class as the ex. This leading to the ex constantly trying to shit on me to him and saying awful things about me, an example being that I gave the ex thrush but it was obviously the other way around ( the ex had cheese.) and another factor being that women cannot develop it?( ifyk what I mean) and this has been going on for the 5 months I’ve known the current bf and been w the current one. There has been also constant accounts on various platforms stalking my profiles and contacting me, this is when it started to include my friends. Then with the ex friends, they started adding my friends to gc and threatening them. And as of recent me and 6 of my friends including my bf work at the same place and the ec friends and bf have began to turn up at our work, you might ask if it’s close by. Our work from the ex is atleast a 30 minute car drive and a 50 minute walk for the ex friends. And as of recent the ex has began to try and get into a relationship with people at my work( younger girls than me ) and to shit on me and to find out if I’m on any shifts w them and also claiming my bf was ther bsf of forever and that I stole him?? I have reported it o the police but is there any way to get this to stop. I have tried to get my bf to intervene but he believes that my ex is ‘over’ me even though this behaviour has been prescient. Any advice will help please, I have been extremely stressed abt this andI really need help.
Sorry if anything is weirdly typed, I’m writing this late at night and I hate re reading my own wok.
Posted Feb 19, 2026, 10:03 PM UTC