Unpotty training

Has anyone actually ever unpotty trained? If this is a commitment im willing to make (ive seen the others talk about how they dont want it but i do) how do i go about making diapers a "need" instead of a "want"? I want to be fully inco both for #1 and #2, i have the lifestyle for it and its something ive thought upon for many years and have decided its my main goal. I cant take supplements or watch hypnosis videos bc im married, i want to do it all natural (training my brain and body to release automatically). Half my family thinks im incontinent already bc ive kept the abdl side of this a secret since i was a kid. What have yall done to make things easier and avoid the "just this once ill go #2 in the toilet" or "just today then ill be diapered tomorrow"