Trauma Bond

Been reading about trauma bonds and given the intermittent contact between my WH and his AP during their affair, plus her trying to end it several times as he wouldn’t leave me and commit to her.. and her taking him back when he made promises that he would leave me and on and on, I am pretty sure theirs was a trauma bond. Intermittent reinforcement, inconsistency, lack of safety.. etc.. not a relationship built on consistency, trust and safety.. and then it just dawned on me.. I think this is where I am now in my relationship with my WH.. our bond has become a trauma bonds (at least for me).. how do we get back to something more healthy ?