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Wanting to end contact with the dad of my daughter's friend due to a rape/SA joke comment

I have a five year old daughter with an ex girlfriend. We have 50/50 custody. However, my ex has spending a lot of time in neighboring state as her father is in the end stages of ALS. My daughter has been with me more over the past few months, and I have been spending more time than I usually would with my daughters' friends and their parents. My daughter is in an indoor soccer/tball league. I've gotten to know some of the kids' parents better and have been added to group chats, and I text individually with the parents as well.

Last weekend, the kids had a practice. I was sitting with several parents, and one mom who only moved to the area several months ago was asking about a locally owned board game shop that hosts D&D nights. One dad said to avoid that shop because "the owner rapes (screws over) his customers with the prices". This bugged for reasons I will state below.

My ex also confided to me years ago when we were together that she was an SA victim due to an incident when she was a teenager. I was also an ER nurse for a few years, and there were times I encountered patients who came in after sexual and physical assaults and I also knew the SANE (sexual assault nurse examiner) nurses on staff. It's a difficult subject. There have been other times I have lost respect for people who make jokes about sexual assault and abuse.

I was disgusted by the other's dad comment, but I kept quiet as I had other things going on that day. My ex is coming in town tomorrow and my daughter will be with her for the next week. I'm going to talk to my ex about what that dad said and my ex will probably want to avoid him as well.

I know many probably think I'm being too sensitive. Am I being too sensitive?

Posted Feb 20, 2026, 4:29 PM UTC

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