What to buy for my wife's situation?

Hi all. Long post - sorry but also thank you in advance. I posted less than an hour ago but for some reason all of the text below was left out.

I'm posting on behalf of my wife. Learning to play rock/metal songs on drums has been on her bucket list since she was in her teens (30s now). Think bands like A Day to Remember, Paramore, Slipknot, Korn, Disturbed, Atreyu, Sleeping with Sirens, Avenged Sevenfold, etc.

We've been doing research here and there for a few days. She has no experience (but used to play viola pretty well when she was young) and will be taking lessons next month. The place she'll be taking lessons at will have her playing on an Alesis Nitro Pro.

She likes to watch youtubers like Kristina Rybalchenko and El Estepario Siberiano. I'm aware that these youtubers likely have $2000+ drum sets and probably use acoustic and electric. We have to use electric to not piss off neighbors/HOA. I'm also aware they have years and years of experience. My wife seems pretty serious about learning as much as she can with the little free time she has.

I've looked through other posts here and checked current prices for sets on guitarcenter.com (ideally would like to buy new). It seems like Alesis is only good for the start, and Roland is highly regarded. So I'm guessing Alesis is not the right choice but in any case, we're looking at:

Alesis Nitro Pro XL (currently $750). This seems like the Nitro Pro but with an extra drum and cymbal.

Simmons Titan 75 (currently $700). This seems like a better option based on some past posts.

Roland TD-07DMK (currently $880 + cost of the bass drum pedal).

Can any of these get you to at least intermediate level after enough time/practice? Is there a set that can last you all the way to advanced so you don't have to replace it and costs less than $1500? I've seen posts about the Roland TD-07KV being a big upgrade from the DMK.

If there's nothing that can last you "forever" without spending $2000+, then we'll settle for buying something now to replace years later. Any input would be appreciated.