anyone ever fluctuate between limerence and healthy love for their LO based on time spent with them?

i think im in somewhat of a unique position because my LO and i friends who have expressed feelings for each other and pretty much act like we're in a romantic relationship, but he isn't interested in committing to a relationship until he goes to therapy and works on himself and feels ready/mentally healthy.

i totally understand and support him in not wanting to rush into anything and potentially 'ruin' our chance at being together for the long run because we do talk about spending the rest of our lives together and have legitimately started moving towards being nested and intertwining our lives (we're moving in together this year and are sharing a bedroom/bed)

and he never ignores or rejects me and i do genuinly believe he'll want to be with me one day after doing the inner work and he's very loving and thoughtful and always responds quickly to me. i think my 'push and pull' dopamine rush reinforcement cycle that makes me limerent over him isnt the typical attention/hope/rejection cycle often seen in limerent relationships (although it was in the beginning, before i understood why he isn't currently interested in a relationship) but more so the anticipation that one day it'll be more & every little thoughtful thing he does feels so much bigger in my brain because i think 'OKAY GOOD he does actually like me and want to be with me but just not yet.' (for example he'll buy me a candy and to me it'll feel like he just proposed lmao)

but anyhow, when im away from him (we live in different states but see eachother once or twice a month) im in full blown limerence. constant daydreaming about what life will be like when we finally move in together, constant rumination over past interactions to self confirm im not making it all up in my head, idolizing him and obsessing, he occupies my every thought. but then when we're together after a couple days i feel a lot more grounded in reality and our love feels like just a normal healthy comfortable love with very minimal limerence. after spending some time together im like 'OH YEAH he's just a normal human, and i love him!' but then i get home and a week later im back to the 24 hour long day dreams about him.

anyone else been in a position like this?? i think it's somewhat unique to have a LO that likes you back but isn't ready for a relationship yet (the dreaded 'situationship' type situation lmao). also in a different vein, would anyone be interested in REALITY CHECKING ME ahaha like i wanna list off some things my LO has done that makes me think 'yes we'll be together one day' and you tell me with 0 sugar coating whether you think it's something real or something im blowing up in my head? PM me if so haha