my gf wants me to be a housewife but i want a career??

hi lesbians/sapphics of reddit! so i’m 24f, in a committed relationship with an older woman (30f, and no i am NOT calling her old, just older than me pls). i just graduated with my bachelor’s (3.92/4.00, yes i’m flexing a little) and i’m starting my master’s this fall. i’ve always wanted to become an educator someday, like teaching at a uni or school. that’s genuinely something i’ve dreamed about.

here’s the thing. my gf is doing a PhD (she’s insanely intelligent, like actually big brain energy). she’s also very provider coded. she loves taking care of me and she’s… financially very comfortable, like rich rich. her late dad owned a big engineering company and left a lot for her and her mom so money is not an issue on her side.

she’s told me before she wants me to be a housewife. like she wants to come home from work to me, have me at home, etc and she’s said it more than once. when i talked about wanting to teach at a university someday, her tone felt… off? not angry. just not excited about it, and i’m conflicted.

i don’t totally hate the idea of being a housewife but i cannot imagine staying home forever. i’d be bored, i need intellectual stimulation. i want my own career. i want to meet people, have colleagues, feel accomplished, contribute financially too (even if she doesn’t need it). i don’t want to feel like i’m just… there.

what do you guys think of my situation? how do i bring this up without making it sound like i’m rejecting her provider energy? i don’t want her to feel unappreciated. i just don’t want to give up something i’ve wanted for years. also pls be gentle, i’m not super experienced in relationships 😭