My Ex Girlfriend Made a Fake Account to Catfish me After She Dumped me To Be hurtful

Me (M19) and my Ex (F19) were together for 2 years, We moved in together after 3 months of dating And lived together the entire time. It was truly a great time in my life, We spent lots together and lots of time travelling the world we've been to 8 different countrys together. She was like my best friend and i told her things that i swore i would take to the grave otherwise, We'd both been there together through pretty horrible times with our own personal struggles or whatever life threw at us wed always come out together.

I really saw a Future with her and made sure to be the best boyfriend I could. I would take her on dates every week, Buy her gifts flowers e.t.c. On her 18th birthday i suprised her with a vacation to europe for 2 weeks, christmas i did the same thing but we went to africa. she was always my number 1 priority Over everything else. Outside of physical gifts i always made sure to be there for her as much as i could emotionally, spent quality time with her even in times i did just want to be alone cus i know how much it means to her. always listened to her problems, worrys. She struggled very badly with her mental health and so did i but i was always there for her i never judged. Like when i caught her self harming i didnt get mad or tell her she had to give me her blades i just made sure to clean and dress the wounds and ask whats going on and let her talk about her feelings. she used to struggle with an eating disorder and has very low self esteem and issues with eating as a result but overtime in our relationship in her own words i made her comfortable with who she was and she felt like she could eat whatever she wanted without feeling guilty or bad which made me so happy.

There were times i definetly screwed up and had problems with my mental health aswell. i feel terrible about all those times and wish i couldve changed my behaviour. i struggle with bpd and cptsd from a very bad childhood and my emotions alot of the times are all over the place, cant communicate without shouting arguing fighting e.t.c, i could be emotionally very cold sometimes which has nothing to do with her i just feel so damn numb sometimes its like a genuine hole in my heart. but i feel like she was also similar and outside of those times i tried my very best to show her i cared. i know im a very angry and out of control person and ive tried so many types of therapy nothings ever helped me it sucks majorly. i just try my best but i know there were a few arguments i screamed and shouted and one where i definetly scared her which i still feel terrible about to this day and its been over a year scince it happened

People change and we both changed so much from when we first met but she changed in a way i didnt expect. When we met she was always in her own lane if you feel what i mean like she had friends went out e.t.c but for the most part she liked doing her own thing and focusing on her passions and hobbys and didnt care about what people thought of the way she dressed, what she did, her hair her style e.t.c and thats what always stuck out about her for me honestly. but towards the end she got into hairdressing which i encouraged. she was interested in hairdressing for a long time but to get into it she needed to go back to school or work her way up as an apprentice which has awful pay. option 1 wasnt an option and she expressed concern at option 2 as she felt she wouldnt be financially comfortable and she ended up getting an opportunity to be an apprentice but hesistated but i told her to accept the offer and i would pay more bills and cover it because i genuienly wanted her to take it and have a job she enjoyed, something she cared about. There was a time when we were together where she was unemployed for 4 months and i still managed to hold everything down while taking her out e.t.c. so it wasnt a concern for me and i thought it was a great opportunity for her

But well in the way she changed was not what i expected. the first thing i did not realise is that this is a very very high end salon in fact one of the best in my country. everyone has to look, dress, be a certain way if that makes sense and the girls that work there... well once i met them it made sense the way my ex was acting. im not making assumptions about anyone that works in this industry but i met these girls personally when me and my ex bumped into them at a club. they are 'mean' girls if that makes sense. i remember on my exes first day she picked an outfit she really liked and felt confident in and they all judged her and told her she needed a new style. then she stopped eating and i started to wonder why... i did most of the cooking as i used to be a chef so i switched up what i was making, asked if there was anything shed perfer and even when i packed her lunches i could tell she wasnt eating them i caught her out in her lie and she admitted she hadnt. so i brought her some new clothes and she didnt like them so i took them back. i tried to take her out shopping so we went to a store shed legit never been to and she says yeah its what all the girls at work wear so we went in and i think i figured out that she was comparing herself to them. she is not fat or overweight even if she was there wouldnt be anything wrong with that she is just a naturally curvy girl and unfortunately nothing really fit her and she got very upset and angry with me. these are just a few things but then it started to affect our relationship directly.

See at this point my ex did not have many friends, she used to but they all fell out with eachother. these girls acted friendly with her and shed always go on about them like they were all good friends. one night though i bumped into these girls all dressed up ready to go out clubbing on a saturday night, i saw them all and they said hi to me and i asked where my ex was and they told me she wasnt intersted in going out. so when i got home my ex is sitting on the couch playing xbox and i said arent you going out tonight do you want to do something e.t.c and she said no no ones invited me out she asked the girls at work but no ones doing anything. in that moment i debated telling her but i didnt know what to say so we went out instead. she also started talking shit about me to these girls and her other co workers. she started telling them about our arguments, even showing them our text conversations which i had spoke about some very personal things. then she changed in genral she became quite rude, kinda ungrateful and not the kind of girl i met nor one would i want to date. she starts telling me im toxic, manipulative, a shitty guy, shes too young to deal with me e.t.c. these things hurt but they came out in arguments however i completely shut off in genral after she did this. one argument text she showed to these girls i spoke about some pretty awful childhood trauma i wouldnt want them knowing. and she did not seem concerned at all and told me its not a big deal. i stopped communicating anything in genral out of a fear of this narritive being twisted further i also dont think its fair to call me toxic based off our fights an arguments as she also has said awful things and shouted and swore at me.

in the end she broke up with me but i loved that girl very much i fought hard to get her back and i did. but she broke up with me again. i was just going through a truly bad time and i bottled it all up and i had a suicide attempt which has not happened in 4 years. she said she didnt think i was a bad person just my mental health needed work. i begged her not to go and that i would do anything she needed to feel better about us but she told me she was firm in her decision and wasnt going to go back on it. i said i understood but she wasnt to contact me under any circumstance so a firm no contact boundary, ive had a few breakups before and i just cant do the friends thing after. it dosent work and makes me miserable. i blocked her on all social medias, her phone e.t.c and just let it be it crushed me inside and i was already feeling low because of my attempt but i just had to keep going with life i guess

Ive always wanted to move country and live somewhere else. i was kicked out when i was 15 and ive always been moving from place to place, i never got used to staying somewhere too long and even though intially it was a result of homelessness it became fun especially when i became a stable adult and looked after myself. i raised it with her if she would ever do it. the way i make money (no its not illegal) i can live anywhere id like and she wouldnt have even had to work but she was never up for it because of her family being in her country and not wanting to leave. i was honestly okay with that because wherever she was i was happy. but scince i accepted she was gone and a month after she left me i was gone and i left to start again in a new country. it kind of tore me in two because i wanted to stay in the hopes wed get back together but part of me was like dude she broke up with you twice she dosent want you, you cant put life on pause for her and i just ended up going for it. i also didnt really like who she was anymore.

When i left scince we were no contact i just left a small goodbye letter in her door. i have no ill feeling towards her whatsoever and just thanked her for the good times, apologised for times when i was a bad guy and wished her the best of luck with her life and whatever she persues and telling her im sure she will be sucessful and explaining that i left and wasnt coming back. and that day i left. then things were rough for a while, breakup was fresh, settling in was hard but sure enough i got back too it, got back to the gym, working hard making some money, some friends e.t.c and being in a new country is just as fun as i thought it would be and i dont regret my choice. i regret it even less after what she did next

i moved on i even started talking to new girls e.t.c. i honestly felt so peaceful about the whole thing before all of this. i never checked her social media or spoke to anyone who knows her so it was all out of sight out of mind. i assumed shed probably slept with someone else or met someone else or was doing whatever but i didnt need to hear it or see it. i just came to true terms with it and started smiling again and just chilling out and enjoying things. i always hoped one day maybe wed meet again and things could be different but i accepted for the next few years at least i need to fly solo. i made all new social media accounts after leaving

one day i get a request from a girl, she hits me up and starts talking to me but something about her is a bit suspicious to say the least, just couldnt put my finger on it. she even sounds a bit familiar but again put it down to paranoia. shes very foward and trying to get to know a lot about me which i then started to get suspicious it was my ex. i asked my friends what they thought and they told me to stop being paranoid, i need to let go to be fully over her. obviously this is an internet stranger so im not going to tell them everything but they said to chill out she just wants to get to know you. this girl wants to go on a phone call and at this point some of the questions shes asked were very specific and i got very very paranoid so i said yeah maybe sometime and forgot about it. a few hours pass and ive been out partying all night so im kinda drunk and high and i get home and this girl calls me i didnt even look at who it was i just awnsered the phone. this girl starts talking to me making conversation but i could swear its my ex putting on a voice so i let her keep talking and i still cant make it out but im 90 percent sure its her.

At this point the mask drops and my ex goes 'Do you really not know who this is'. My stomach genuienly dropped because it was just a bit creepy and i really didnt want to have to hear from her. i stayed silent as she cusses me out and tells me to fuck off calls me an asshole all while being a bit confused. she says that letter i left her is complete bullshit look at me flirting with girls being 'easy'. she asks if i have anything to say and i asked her what her problem was. her friends are in the background and i can hear them laughing thinking this is hilarious. she keeps on cussing me out and saying im stupid and a loser e.t.c. she claims she knows where i am but when this fake girl asked where i lived i was very vague and lied and i told her im not where she thinks but nice try. she keeps going yeah yeah whatever her friends are cussing me out saying i aint shit e.t.c. i went ex look i didnt want to hear from you, i told you that, why are you doing this and hung up the phone.

i sent a text being like look i get it you dont love me anymore, you hate me, im this and im that but why the need to do this its way too far. i told her that she was the one who broke up with me and im not being 'easy' but i can do what i like and its not unfair for me to be talking to a girl in a completely casual way 2 months after she broke up with me. its been 3 months scince she broke up with me and this happened 2 months ago. i didnt even mention i was speaking to other girls but just said why is it such a problem.

she goes this is your ex texting btw so im assuming her friends were the one texting me from this account. she says that she has a new boyfriend firstly. she didnt even say it directly. she got me a ps5 a while ago as a gift and i grew up very rough and poor i never got anything like that and it was genuienly the nicest gift anyone got me. when we broke up i just couldnt play it it made me sad which sucked so i packe dit up in the box and reset it and left a note on it saying thankyou it was really the nicest gift anyone ever got me, please give it away to someone who will use it and enjoy it like i did. i couldnt bring myself to sell it for a bit of cash or something i felt shitty doing that. the way she explained having a new boyfriend is when the first text read 'my new boyfriend says thanks for the ps5'. this honestly just made me laugh and i was like okay. if im being honest if i just started dating a girl and she was like yeah heres the ps5 i gave my ex he was an asshole id feel sick honestly lol. she then proceeds to text me saying shes so glad im out her life, she hates me, it was a blessing in disguise that she broke up with me even though i dont get what that even means. if i broke up with her it would make sense but i didnt there is no disguise. i told her i was glad she was happy with her new life. but i then proceeded again saying look so your happy, your with someone else, im not good enough and your glad im gone. why do you feel the need to tell me this like its going to make a difference. i told her ive moved on and so has she clearly. i told her i didnt appreciate this it was super chidish and really weird and creepy essentially. i told her enough and to cut it out and that this is messed up. i told her she needed to just let go of this situation because i have and i was living very far away from her in a whole new country! im miles away i could care less about what your up too

she then goes 'yeah i just had to know because you decided to just fuck off'. i also dont get this as why is me moving such a big problem, she knew id always wanted to do it and i didnt have a reason to stay there anymore and if your willing to lose me and our relationship, if i disappear what difference does it make to you. i told her it was a hard situation and i was in a lot of pain and i needed a fresh start and she told me i was full of shit and i was like okay ex are you done. she tells me not to worry and that ill never be hearing from her again (like i even wanted to) and told me to have a nice life. i didnt even respond to any of that and blocked this account.

first i felt pretty shitty knowing i was that easily replaced, i might be seeing new people but im very clear its casual with no strings attatched my heart still feels very heavy. but once i accepted that i just was left and still feel so confused. i just dont get why. this is a really shitty and manipulative thing to do and a very poor attempt to make me jealous. but i just dont get it, she dumped me so of course shes going to be better off without me you dont dump someone unless you think life would be easier without them so i just dont understand the need for this. esepcially because she knows ive just had an attempt, i got dumped and now im in a whole new country im obviously going to be feeling a bit low and its going to be a bit tough, its like kicking someone whos already down and i just dont get this kind of behaviour at all. while it still wouldnt be okay if i dumped her if i did maybe i would get it but she dumped me so im still so confused about the whole thing

it sucks cos i was doing so well but im back to square one i feel like. im thinking about her and this whole situation constantly and i was just starting to forget. this is obviously done to get in my head and make me feel crazy and its worked which is just shit i dont want to think about her and i feel like i deserve to move on. part of me also laughs and feels relived. when i got here all i could think about is maybe i made the wrong choice, maybe i shouldve stayed to fight but now im very glad i didnt. all in all i just feel kinda upset about this though as i really didnt need it all thrown in my face like this and i was doing just fine and now im falling behind again and it feels like how it did when the breakup was fresh