When do you know it’s time to call it quits?

When do you know it’s time to call it quits? I’m 29f and my husband is 25m. Married for a little over a year but together for 4 years. I’ve always been the one to take care of everything and recently I just feel like his mom and not his wife. I clean everything, do laundry, drive us everywhere, take care of our animals by myself, plan everything, pay for everything, everything financial is through me, etc. I just feel like I literally do everything and he doesn’t nothing. Not only that but he is very controlling. He will say he isn’t but if I want to hang with a friend or family member, he will throw a fit, but then says it’s fine and I can go. Then I go and if I don’t text him often or i am not home within a few hours I get the silent treatment. For the past 4 years, I feel like I have been on a leash and it’s like I just am seeing it. Last month we got invited on a FREE family vacation, paid for and planned by my dad. Mind you this vacation is in 2027. We said yes. Well then he asked me if he could buy $500 worth of hockey jerseys and I said you can do whatever you want but just remember how much debt you have. (He has lied about his finances to me and just a couple months ago I found out he had 2 maxed out cards. I helped him with budgeting to pay them off and then once he got his one card down enough, he maxed it out again). I guess he didn’t like that response because he then said he wasn’t going on the family vacation and that if I didn’t distance myself from my family, we would never work out. I am baffled. lol I have asked him to clarify that because 1. I don’t see them often already because of him 2. Why are you acting like a literal child. He now says he misspoke and he didn’t mean that, but there should be boundaries. The boundaries however, feel over controlling and make me feel like I’m on a leash. He says I should prioritize us, which I do, but he says I don’t. I guess between that comment, his finances, how he acted about the vacation and how much I do for us, I feel like I’m ready to call it quits but then I’m like we have only been married for a year so I should stay. Another thing is that if we don’t have sex often, he will call me his roommate. Like I just don’t have the sex drive anymore for someone I have to take care of financially and physically lol (he has a job but so much debt and makes so little that I pay for everything.)