Calling all Extroverts (with ASD)!

Hello! So I’m not formally diagnosed, but a few people (who have ASD) keep telling me recently that I might be on the spectrum. I've also seen a lot of AuDHD stuff that I relate to, but I am an extrovert and do understand social cues. So what's the difference?

For the longest time, I didn't think I had it because I thought:

A) It’s just my CPTSD symptoms, but then I read this https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/bjop.12731

B) I was raised by an Autistic Mom, and my brother is non-verbal Autistic, so I probably just picked up on things

C) I'm an extrovert, and I have great interpersonal/social skills. I was described as a social baby before I could even talk, and I barely cried.

D) I have a few ASD friends, and honestly, most of the time when they are struggling with social interactions, I'm the one explaining the so-called social cues or different perspectives.

E) I'm very good at psychoanalysing people and can adapt/understand different people. If I don't understand, I will find out, either by asking for clarification or by researching.

So I want to hear more from people on the spectrum who are extroverted about their experience.

I don't think it's unreasonable to want to stick to a plan/schedule, to value a routine esp rooted in hygiene, to prefer certain textures (whether food/material), and to hate loud noises or crowds. Sure, I do sometimes have social anxiety, but a lot of people do.

TLDR: Is it the sensitivity itself that makes someone have ASD? I always thought it was the social part, but if it is, how is that different from someone NT exactly? Especially among extroverts.