21 [M4F] Germany/Europe - To the woman who is tiered of scrolling, but not tired of having standards

I´ll be quick with this intro, because my post is so long haha. I'm in a great chapter of my life, I'm steady, growing, and genuinely happy. The only thing that would make it better is sharing it with the right person.

If you´re interested in finding someone secure to build something together, you can go ahead and read my post

A bit about me

I turned 21 a bit ago and live in North Rhine-Westphalia, Germany, very close to the Netherlands and Belgium. I'm 198cm tall, athletic with broad shoulders, and pretty cute lookswise (Pictures are available right away, just ask). I finished my bachelors last year and now I work in public administration in a above entry-level position.

In my free time, I'm into

• Reading (Mostly classics and fantasy novels)
• Artsy stuff (Writing, making clay figures, taking photos or refurnishing my room like I do at the moment)
• Cooking (Still suck at handling slabs of meat, but I´m getting there)
• Gaming (would love to play some co-op together)
• Binge-watching movies and shows
• Fitness (mostly lifting, jogging and calisthenics)
• Traveling (Next vacation is gonna be next month, yay)
• Self-care (I have a real love for fragrances and taking care of myself in general)

I'm the calm, confident, and dependable type. I'm direct in communication and I keep my plans. In public I'm pretty calm, but in private I'm very affectionate and playful. I really love taking care of the people I love through food, touch, words, and preparing surprises.

What I hope we'll build

I hope we can build something with a genuine friendship and genuine care as the foundation, without rushing anything. I'm looking for monogamy, adult communication, equal effort, consistency and intentionality right from the start. When we like each other, we act like it.

I believe something special happens in a romantic partnership, where it becomes the primary place for that deep, vulnerable connection. I'm looking to build that kind of close, singular bond with my person.

As for what I bring to the table for that:

• Stability and dependability
• Emotional health and availability (I protect time for my person)
• Maturity and good, direct communication
• A nurturing side with gentle humor and playful teasing

I value and need those traits in others a lot as well. So what I'm ultimately looking for is deep, mature, mutual devotion. A relationship where we both give to each other because it makes us happy. Not because we need each other to function, but because being together is fulfilling.

Little dreams about us

I'm not just looking for a plus-one for my existing plans, I'm looking for someone to make new ones with. My big dream is a partnership that feels like an adventure and a sanctuary in one. There are so many things I want to experience with you, especially when it comes to traveling:

• One of those glass igloo hotels in Lapland (look them up, you won't regret it)
• Touring through Europe together and the same through rural Japan
• And lots of trips together in general, since I travel about 3 times a year and would love for you to accompany me

But for me the foundation to something fullfilling is in the quieter daily moments like cozy weeknights where we recharge, make new experiences together on weekends, and the relaxation of cuddling up in bed together, especially in winter. I want a love that's as intentional in its daily rhythm as it is in its long-term plans.

Closing Note

I'm not too experienced with relationships, but I've put a lot of thought into what I want and what I can give. As I said, life has been going really well lately, I feel steady, content and I feel like I have a lot to give. Because of that, I've had the growing feeling that the right person is missing (You!). Like the title implies, I'd prefer to meet someone from NL/BE/DE so meeting up and spending time will be a lot easier, but I'm open to connections from anywhere in the EU as long as you are intentional and upfront.

A quick hello with your age and where you're from is a perfect start when you decide to reach out. To get us talking, tell me what kind of date we'll be doing first: coffee, a museum, or one of your suggestions! (Also, I text a lot less formally in private, but I thought it´d be best if I polished this post up haha)

I'll be honest: I'm selective. I turn down the majority of conversations early because I can tell they aren't leading to the kind of connection I've described above. My hope is that by being clear about what I'm looking for, I attract someone who's looking for the same thing and knows she's it.

To everyone reading this, whether you reach out or not, I'm wishing you the coziest saturday evening and hope you're well, wherever you are :) I'll be looking for your message